“Respect Everyone. Listen To No One.” Gary Vaynerchuk
If you ask anyone I work with, they will tell you that in meetings, I sit in silence for probably 98% of the time.
I listen, I study, I evaluate, and only then am I able to present my side.
When growing your brand, business, or own self, you are going to get the people who don’t support you, who don’t believe in you, or who just always have a joke.
You then have the option to: a) react back and fuel the fire (wrestle the pig) or b) respect and ignore.
B is the right choice, but it doesn’t happen over night for most.
I had been told for most of my life that I didn’t have what it took to do whatever it was I wanted to do. Whether it was writing, engineering, cycling, or marketing. And ya know what, I won’t ever be an engineer.
I respected their opinion, took it for what it was, tried to execute it, and realized that I wasn’t meant for that. But I gave it a shot anyways, even though they said it wouldn’t work.
I have people, sometimes daily, who talk down on me as a writer, strategist, whatever it is they wanna talk about.
However, when I finally realized their opinion didn’t matter. So what? Oh you don’t think what I do is real…or matters? The people I help think so. The individuals who message me asking for help think so. The guy who got motivated to grow his business, with my services, thinks so.
YOUR OPINION DOESN’T MATTER.
I will respect what you say, I will evaluate it, and maybe you will be right. But I don’t need your permission to try.
YOU DON’T NEED MOMS, DADS, COWORKERS, MANAGERS, FRIENDS PERMISSION TO FOLLOW A DREAM.
That shit is your dream. No ones opinion should change that.
If you really want it; if you really want to be successful, then do it!!!
“Alexa, add milk to my shopping list.”
“Siri, what’s the high for today.”
Just 2 of the phrases I have found myself iterating out loud to one of my voice assistants. Things I never thought I would genuinely say in such a conversational way to a device that has no one on the other end.
Many tech leaders have been saying for the past 12 months (ish) that voice was going to be the next big disruptor in tech . Rightfully so, consumer behavior has certainly shown that we are valuing our time more and more which means that those extra seconds it takes for me to come to a stop to, take out my phone, and add milk to my shopping list is too much of an inconvenience.
At the end of the day though, as the quote says, time is money, and we are starting to value that money at a higher currency than ever before. Of course, not everyone will value it at the same rate, and tech companies recognize that.
Trevor Jones, an analyst at Adobe Digital Insights , a global leader in research and data trends of consumers, said that “…device sales [Amazon Alexa, Google Home, Microsoft Cortona, and others] are performing well but have not yet become a standard household purchase.”
Going to the common understanding that although sales have increased for these smart devices, it is not an expected item to be sold to consumers, yet. Even with that being said, it is suspected that there will be 21.4 MILLION smart speakers in 2020.
Voice search, as of now, has been helping businesses rank on search engines because most searches using voice are longer queries.
Traditionally, text searches take a massive drop after about three words (peaking at two words). Although voice follows the same trend, dropping around four or five words (peaking at three words), they have a fairly high search rate towards the six to seven-word query.
That is a little surprising that they both take a massive hit in searches around the same word count, but we are so used to getting straight to the point…even when talking.
But, let’s put it to the test. Try answering these two questions:
If you wanted to find out the weather today…
1. How would you type it into Google?
2. How would you ask Siri (or Alexa, Google, Cortona)?
The vast majority of people would answer with the following:
2. Alexa, what’s the weather for today?
We all do it. Without even ever realizing it, we have altered how we communicate based on if it is via text or voice. We even do it with texting versus phone calls, because texting means you’re not cutting into my time too much, so I won’t give you too much of it, where a phone call means I am already dedicating my time to you.
Whether the voice recognition industry will really be an $18 billion industry by 2023, I don’t know.
The one thing I know is, voice saves time, and at the end of the day, if I can save time on small tasks like finding out the weather, ordering food, or even updating my shopping list, I’ll buy into it.
Because of time. It is all about time.
1.1 Million Americans Attempt Suicide Annually.
Nearly 45,000 Americans Commit Suicide Every Year.
5 to 17 year-olds hospital admissions more than doubled from 2008 to 2015 for suicidal thoughts or actions.
On average, there are 121 suicides per day .
Your Story Matters — Don’t Give Up The Fight
T hese aren’t just numbers; these are people. They are sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, moms and dads.
I have been fairly outspoken when it comes to my suffering of depression and suicidal thoughts/actions. I decided that this is how I wanted to live my life moving forward, I didn’t just want to be silent and let the world go on thinking it was just a “phase” or that those 45,000 lives were just statistics.
In the past five years or so, it seems that mental illness has taken a larger spotlight for discussion after many celebrities have taken their lives. However, we are still not talking enough about it. The discussions get loud for a week, two weeks, maybe even a month after a recognizable name takes their life, but then it dissipates, and we go back to pretending it doesn’t exist.
That is not how it should happen, that is not how we should be treating this situation.
Too many see mental illnesses as a phase, as a kid being “too sensitive” whatever the hell that means, or as a someone holding onto a grudge.
We ignore the signs. We ignore the cries for help. We pretend that none of it is true because it is easier for us to pretend that it isn’t our fault it is happening, that if something does happen to that “poor troubled boy” or that “sensitive girl” that it wasn’t our fault.
We see the signs, but we ignore them. We hate to admit that someone may be truly unhappy with their life, but we hate to have to inconvenience ourselves even more.
It is so much easier just to say “it’ll get better” than to stick by them till it does get better because one requires us to actually care and put in the effort to help.
It shouldn’t take someone who is in the spotlight for us to give a shit about the 1.1 MILLION lives that are affected on a daily basis by mental illnesses like depression and suicide.
And you know what, until we don’t just care for those few weeks after someone takes their life, it is going to continue to happen.
It is the time that we stop thinking of depression and suicide as a phase, or a fad, and start getting serious with how we see and help those who suffer from these mental illnesses.
It does get better , but it can be hard to believe it will, I know that first hand. I never thought it would; it seemed so foreign to be happy, but when I was able to see the world in a macro-perspective I was able to see how things may truly get better.
It isn’t a secret. There is no doubt in anyones mind that death will come, but the question I always have is what happens after?
Not so much spiritually, because I’ve learned that it isn’t worth questioning, because we will never truly know outside of what we believe.
I question what is said after, what is talked about, who says what about me, who shows up to my funeral that I hadn’t talked to in years, or who shows up that used to talk down to me. That is what I question, that is what I work for.
My biggest drive in life is my legacy, it is what I leave behind, what I leave for my friends and family to talk about. Not the money, but the actions.
There is SO much negativity in this world, and so many people spend their entire lives being negative, rude, hurtful, and are more focused on themselves than they are on helping someone else. So many people would rather talk about all the bad in the world than they would the good, and that is devastating to me.
One day, maybe soon, maybe a long time away, you are going to die. You may not know when, you may not have the heads up, and if you don’t, how will the world remember you?
You don’t get to come back and fix the relationships, or rebuild the bridges, or apologize for the comment that made that person stay up late crying. It is done with, you made your bed, and now you have to sleep in it.
The comments you leave on someones status, the messages you send to someone, the things you say in person or behind their back all matter. You don’t want to admit it, you don’t want to think it matters, but it does.
No body wants to think about the consequences to their actions because they know it wouldn’t be good, no one wants to listen to WHY it matters, because we are all too busy. We are all too tired. We are all too tired.
We are all too good.
But one day, you will die, and one day, people will be telling stories about the impact you left on their life, the time you made them laugh. Or the time you made them cry. Or the time you made them hopeful, or faithful, or thankful. Or, suicidal.
If I could challenge everyone to do one thing, one thing every day moving forward, it is to be aware. Be self-aware of what you say and do, and be aware of those who you engage with, what they say, do, or imply.
Every day we make our beds, and one day we will need to be able to sleep in them — will you be able to?